NoBeeMV
no bee
no bee
 
Made In China

 

 

I went to my dad,
and I asked him straight
out, “Was I ‘Made in
China’? What’s she
talking about?”
– Made In China

 

Made In China
amazon buynow
Author:
Vanita Oelschlager
Illustrator:
Kristin Blackwood

Ages 4-8
32 Pages
978-0-9800162-3-9
Hardcover: $17.95

dashed

dashed

Compiled with the help of parents and Dr. Ivonne Hobfoll, Clinical Psychologist, Summa Health System.


To help an internationally adopted child have pride in her or his country of origin, it is helpful for the child to have something tangible to hold and to show to other children such as a picture of The Great Wall of China, or a jade carving.

 

When adopted children are being teased by children at school or at home, there are things you can do or you can teach them to do. First of all teach the child to avoid overreacting, because that is a sure way to get teased again. In fact, no response and walking away from the other child is often the most successful strategy. If ignoring hurtful comments is difficult for the adopted child, you can teach her or him coping strategies such as deep breathing or counting to themselves to 25 while walking away.

 

If ignoring the hurtful comment doesn’t work, the adopted child should have a few choice but short comments available to them, i.e. “Sure, sure, Whatever!” Or something else dismissive, or even a look like rolling of the eyes, which communicates, “you don’t know anything.”

 

An adult close by can also become helpful. If the adopted child is being called stupid, fat, small etc…the adult can smile and hug the adopted child in front of the teasing child and say, “It’s not true, you are very smart, like when you were able to count to 30”, or “you are the perfect size for you because you are still growing”, or “good things come in small packages”. By not reinforcing the teasing child, this reduces the impact of the mean comments.

 

Finally, the adopted child can and should be taught not to be aggressive, but to be assertive. The assertive language can be simplified or be more involved depending on the age of the child. Practice being assertive a few times a day with the child. The beginning and the end of the comment need to be positive so that the chance of the other child hearing you is increased.

  1. Say something positive: “It’s true we are all different (with a smile).
  2. Say what the problem is: “I don’t like it when you call me names.”
  3. Say what your solution is: “Please stop it because it hurts and you wouldn’t like it if I called you names.”
  4. Say something positive: “Maybe we can just play sometime.”

When you say something positive at the end, the other child can feel good about the interaction and actually follow up on what is being asked of them. This works well with adults too.

 

If the teasing child continues to be hurtful, the adopted child should tell an adult, and perhaps tell the harassing child this will take place with a comment such as, “If you don’t stop, I’ll have to tell the teacher, or my parents and you will get in trouble.”

 

VanitaBooks will donate all net profits from this book to Holt International’s work in China.

art

How the artwork was created.
logobottom   © VanitaBooks, LLC
Children's Books | Other Books | Appearances | In The News | Contact Us | Home | Meet Vanita | Our Team | Oak Clinic | Site Map